In relationships there is so much responsibility placed on women to endure, to tolerate, to obey, to be patient, to heal these men, to enrich their lives, and to make them “feel” like men. So much that these characteristics have come to define woman; we are ideas, fantasies, and objects for these men.
We learn from a young age to be pleasing for men, and are told not to complain, because a good girl endures. A wife’s or girlfriend’s love and worth for their partner is weighed in how much bullshit, mistreatment, and abuse she takes.
And when the shit hits the fan, and a woman has had enough, the men are never blamed — they’re treated like injured boys in need of love and healing, and as women we are blamed because we must have failed them.
remember when little pink badges on them saying “no” were apparently progressive? or when shirts against catcalling were considered super fashionable?
remember when we thought consent was a cute accessory? remember when we thought that refusing men or saying no were anything other than our basic rights as human beings?
"no" should not be fun or sexy or trendy. it shouldn’t be revolutionary. it should be something women are able to say strongly and freely and it should be necessary and basic.
…but unfortunately liberal feminism has even commodified our “no”.
transwomen are discriminated against by gender conforming (masculine) males for not conforming with the gendered role associated with their sex.
they are not oppressed in the same way or on the same axis as females (people born with female reproductive organs: a uterus, ovaries, vagina, and vulva) because they are not and never will be females.
our experiences are unique and different. that’s the foundation of my ideology and the ideology of any other person who understands sex based oppression. this is not a violent ideology. violence against transwomen is perpetrated by males who seek to uphold dominance over women, and when they see one of their fellow males not complying with that they feel disgusted and threatened.
The commodification of sex under an oppressive institution (patriarchy) is always wrong. Reform cannot happen when something was built, from the ground up, on oppression and humiliation.
It’s simply amazing how porn apologists can read study after study after testimony after testimony about how the porn industry makes its money off the rape & abuse of women & children, & the only thing they care about is being able to keep watching porn guilt-free. Just as luaren says, porn cannot be reformed because it was built on oppression. Without a constant, fresh supply of female bodies stricken by poverty & histories of sexual abuse, the porn industry could not exist.
here is an idea: if all daddy doms took a minute to consider why violence against women turns them on, and why being called daddy turns them on? because maybe there is the possibility that those kinks have been influenced by the patriarchy? because the bedroom isn’t a bubble and kinks that mimic Real Societal Values aren’t inherent?
i can’t fucking stand when ddlg relationships are called feminist, you can’t just stick that label on anything you’d like. especially when NO critical thinking is applied. especially when the smallest amount of critical thinking applied could tell you it’s the antithesis of feminism